A married woman has cried out for help after facing guilt for a long time. The woman who revealed that she has been cheating on the husband with his best friend is now asking for help on how to get out of the ugly situation.
Dear readers,
I am married and have been with my husband for 16 years.
We have been married for almost 6 years now. My husband's name is Aaron while the best friend is called Bob.
I was dating Aaron in high school, which is where I met Bob. Aaron and Bob were best friends. Aaron didn’t treat me very good in high school, and I relied a lot on Bob. When we were all out and about, well, one thing led to another and Bob and I developed very strong feelings for each other and have never been able to let that go.
I love my husband, but I do not feel that I am in love with him. I feel like he is more my best friend than my lover, which I feel terrible for because he is a wonderful husband and father (to our 3 children). He does go above and beyond for me and the kids. However, I just have always felt like there was something missing. I feel like I am stuck in this boring, day-to-day marriage. He never wants to do anything or go anywhere, and neither of us have our own hobbies. So, we are always together. I do not have any free time to myself.
Ever since I met Bob he was always fun and exciting. At first it was innocent flirting, but the feelings became real, strong, and undeniable. We both tried very hard to ignore our feelings for each other, but I had slept with Bob for the first time a couple weeks before my wedding to Aaron. I felt extremely guilty about it, and I told my husband a couple months later. He did end up forgiving me and we tried to move past the affair. However, my feelings for Bob never went away, and, if anything they got stronger.
I have been reading a lot about affairs online, and I’ve seen where they say that a lot of the time it is only lust with the other person, but that is not the case here. I have true, long-lasting feelings for Bob. He makes me happy and smile. I think about him all the time and when I think about losing him it breaks my heart.
I need some advice as to my feelings and the decisions I need to make. This love triangle is not fair to anyone and I feel like I am going to go crazy! I love my husband, but it is missing that spark, that connection that I want so badly. But, at the same time, do I get a divorce and rip my family apart when I’m really not that miserable and things are not really that bad? Someone help me please, before I do something crazy.
-worried woman.
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